On My Mind

Oh how I have not kept up with this. I really didn't understand before how I'd see some of my fave bloggers go off on hiatus or come back a week later and apologize to readers on staying out for so long.... Now I understand.

There's a couple of things I want to post. One is a thing I'm thinking of doing weekly to inspire me and get me looking again into news and historical people/literature/etc. I'm going to do a "Quote This" section. I think it can encompass enough things so I have some liberty with it and yet encourage me to go and look for new ideas or philosophies. Maybe even quote some loved ones.

I love the link up ideas bloggers have. Its really one of the reasons I wanted to to do posts. I wanted to be able to go around and do fun linkups I've seen around. It again makes me do something lol So I will be doing a Facts of Life linkup with I Wore Yoga Pants To Work. I think she uploaded this Monday... so by tomorrow that'll mean I'm a full four days behind... So sad.

I also wanted to do a quick talk on Darumas. I didn't learn what they were until a year ago when one friend gave me one and now I've decided that maybe it will be a fun little way to stay on course for my things. Later on that.

Hope you guys are having a serene Thursday and getting ready for FRIDAY! Tomorrow... so much still to do for me today. I have to go to work and then I'll have to come home and workout at like 9pm. Pooey. But  next week I start Bootcamp Tuesdays and Thursdays in the morning so I'll be obligated to get up ad workout instead of waiting until I get out of work.

Well I thought this was going to be short but I guess I type pretty fast.

HAPPY THURSDAY!

Its a cold day

It is a cold day. It has been cold

without you.

With you I have hope of comfort.

You are motivation,

energy,

warmth.

You will not come back,

until the days stretch on,

unbearably.

Come.

Come back Sun.

Handle With Care

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I am no youngling having to deal with people in a high school or middle school (god forbid elementary) mired by bullies. I am an adult-- at least in legal terms-- and I still feel a form of this reaching into the realm of "grown-ups".

Most acutely the sting of those I would call the Helper Bullies. People that might actually have a sense of good virtue towards you in them but just say--sometimes do-- all the wrong things. 

They come in many forms. The one who tells you you really should lose some weight-- maybe you'll be healthier (backhanded help). The one who surmises you are (insert sneaky demeaning comment about laziness or intelligence level here) because you haven't (circle one--- tried hard enough/learned enough/done anything really) with the conclusion that they are trying to help you with your goals. The one who asks (again) what you did for your (insert event here) because theirs was just SO wonderful and they just have to tell you so you do that next time.

Some of these might not mean any harm but when it is a recurring theme you get the idea that maybe they used to be the one holding a child-peer upside down to gain their possessions way back in their glory days. 

Not cool guys, not cool.

Then again I have come to realize that some of these people are truly unintentionally being mean. (Yes, even if it's true I should be able to learn by myself how to ship something for ebay. I really have to feel comfortable about my knowledge of something before actually doing it when it involves people n merchandise. So just let me know before you strike with meanness.) For them I say just think about the person you are speaking to and how whatever you are about to say can make them feel. I'm a believer in tough love and some of the Helper Bully remarks I have heard really were for my betterment and said with good intentions; but sometimes it just made the thing worse.

Let's make the world of grown-ups a little enlightened and learn to communicate with each other. 

Let's learn to communicate with empathy, bring a bit of tough love with forewarning, choose our words wisely, hold hands and sing kumbaya.... Well maybe not that last thing, but we could still hold someones hand and help them along with care if they need it.

 With Care.